‘My obsession with getting pregnant became overwhelming’: Prince Harry’s ex girlfriend Cressida Bonas details her IVF struggles after welcoming her first child
The former girlfriend of Prince Harry, Cressida Bonas has revealed her journey with IVF after welcoming her first child last month.
The model and actress, 33, announced she had given birth to a baby boy with husband Harry Wenworth Stanley last month.
In an article published by The Sunday Times, Cressida describes how she felt as though ‘my body was failing me’ after facing difficulties in conceiving, and when a specialist told the couple ‘there was nothing fundamentally wrong’.
‘Overwhelming’: Cressida Bonas has revealed her joiurney with IVF after welcoming her first child last month with husband Harry Wenworth Stanley, pictured in 2018
The actress wrote: ‘I spent time and money on reflexology, nutritionists, acupuncture and psychics…Even a German healer who speaks to angels. I heard nothing, not a squeak.
‘My mind was on a constant worry loop and my obsession with getting pregnant became overwhelming, No matter how many Mystic Megs I saw or expensive supplements I took, nothing was working, and I felt as if my body was failing me.’
Cressida admitted to ‘avoiding’ loved one’s children’s parties due to feeling out of place around her friends who had kids, amid the struggle to have her own.
She went on to say that IVF firstly ‘frightened’ her due to having no ‘power’ over the final outcome.
‘I felt as if my body was failing me’: Cressida describes how she felt as though ‘my body was failing me’ after facing difficulties in conceiving (pictured during her pregnancy)
Following a successful first round in the treatment the new mum and beau Harry welcomed their son in November and acknowledged how ‘lucky’ they were.
Cressida added: ‘I am aware how fortunate we are. We haven’t suffered the extreme heartbreaks that other couples have. I count myself extremely lucky that IVF worked for us the first time.’
The model continued to praise the social media community she shared her experience with so she didn’t feel ‘alone’.
How does IVF work?
In-vitro fertilisation, known as IVF, is a medical procedure in which a woman has an already-fertilised egg inserted into her womb to become pregnant.
It is used when couples are unable to conceive naturally, and a sperm and egg are removed from their bodies and combined in a laboratory before the embryo is inserted into the woman.
Once the embryo is in the womb, the pregnancy should continue as normal.
The procedure can be done using eggs and sperm from a couple or those from donors.
Guidelines from the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) recommends that IVF should be offered on the NHS to women under 43 who have been trying to conceive through regular unprotected sex for two years.
People can also pay for IVF privately, which costs an average of £3,348 for a single cycle, according to figures published in January 2018, and there is no guarantee of success.
The NHS says success rates for women under 35 are about 29 per cent, with the chance of a successful cycle reducing as they age.
Around eight million babies are thought to have been born due to IVF since the first ever case, British woman Louise Brown, was born in 1978.
Chances of success
The success rate of IVF depends on the age of the woman undergoing treatment, as well as the cause of the infertility (if it’s known).
Younger women are more likely to have a successful pregnancy.
IVF isn’t usually recommended for women over the age of 42 because the chances of a successful pregnancy are thought to be too low.
Between 2014 and 2016 the percentage of IVF treatments that resulted in a live birth was:
29 per cent for women under 35
23 per cent for women aged 35 to 37
15 per cent for women aged 38 to 39
9 per cent for women aged 40 to 42
3 per cent for women aged 43 to 44
2 per cent for women aged over 44
‘My mind was on a constant worry loop’: Cressida admitted to ‘avoiding’ children’s parties due to feeling out of place around her friends, who had kids, amid the struggle to have her own
She tied the knot with Wentworth Stanley, who’s a partner in a property investment firm, in July 2020. He’s the son of the Marchioness of Milford Haven.
Cressida famously dated Prince Harry between 2012 until 2014 after the pair were first introduced by his cousin Princess Eugenie.
The former couple remain on good terms and socialise in similar circles, with Eugenie among Cressida’s closest friends.
Cressida even attended her ex-boyfriend’s wedding to Meghan Markle in May 2018.
A family member told MailOnline just 30 of Cressida and Wentworth Stanley’s closest family and friends attended their wedding ceremony, in keeping with the government’s Covid-19 restrictions.
‘It was a beautiful ceremony and they are just so happy,’ the source said at the time. ‘It was a very private and intimate ceremony and that is what they wanted.’
Ex: Cressida famously dated Prince Harry between 2012 until 2014 after the pair were first introduced by his cousin Princess Eugenie (pictured together in 2014)
The OTHER Harry! Who is Cressida Bonas’ well-heeled husband Harry Wentworth-Stanley?
Cressida and Harry, pictured in 2017, dated in university before rekindling their romance after her split from Prince Harry
Harry Wentworth-Stanley, an associate director at estate agents Savills, is the son of Nick Wentworth-Stanley, a debonair Old Etonian, and Clare, now the Marchioness of Milford Haven, who acquired the title upon her second marriage to Harry’s stepfather, the Marquess of Milford Haven.
Before his relationship with his now wife became official, Harry, who is dashingly handsome and 6ft 4in tall, was regarded as one of London’s most eligible bachelors.
He inherited his looks from his mother, Clare, a beauty who remains stunning. There was a brother, James, four years his senior, and younger sister Louisa. When Harry was a child, his mother and father divorced. In 1997, Clare married George, Marquess of Milford Haven, a cousin of the Queen, himself divorced with two children.
The family settled at Great Trippetts, an estate set in 1,000 acres in the Sussex Downs. For a time, life was perfect. Clare stayed on good terms with her former husband, Nick Wentworth-Stanley, who went on to marry Dutch beauty Millie Brenninkmeyer, with whom he had three more children.
Shortly before Christmas 2006, the Marquess and Marchioness and their children went to stay with Nick and his wife in Worcestershire. James, Harry’s elder brother, was recovering from a relatively minor procedure. The operation was a success, but James had become very anxious in the days that followed.
Harry Wentworth-Stanley, an associate director at estate agents Savills, is the son of Nick Wentworth-Stanley, a debonair Old Etonian, and Clare, now the Marchioness of Milford Haven, who acquired the title upon her second marriage to Harry’s stepfather, the Marquess of Milford Haven. Pictured, the Marquess and Marchioness in 2017
One evening, the family discovered that James had taken his own life. They were shattered by the tragedy.
Clare was floored by her son’s suicide. Touchingly, it was Harry, then 17, who helped her through it. She said in an interview 18 months after James’ death: ‘For the sake of the other children, you have to set an example. If you are strong, it gives them permission to be strong. If you fall to bits, they will.
Harry’s father is Nick Wentworth-Stanley, pictured, a debonair Old Etonian
‘The day after James died, his brother Harry said his biggest fear was that it would destroy me, and that would destroy everything else. It suddenly made me feel how important I was.’
The family set up James’ Place in his memory, a suicide prevention charity for men which now runs centres in London and Liverpool,
The couple had a serious relationship when they were both students at Leeds University. The couple were known to their crowd — for reasons that aren’t entirely clear — as ‘Water-Cress’. The romance petered out when he took off for a gap year to Argentina in 2011 after graduating.
Friends have previously said Cressida wasn’t quite over Harry when another Harry — Prince Harry himself — began pursuing her in the summer of 2012 and a romance began. There were concerts, rugby matches, skiing trips and cosy nights in at Kensington Palace.
However the couple split in 2014 after three years together.
The following year Harry Wentworth-Stanley and Cressida were photographed on a Valentine’s Day date, although their relationship became public and official in 2017.
In August last year Harry proposed while on a trip to the US and the couple’s smiles in the Instagram announcement told followers all they needed to know about their love for each other.
Harry as a young boy with his stepfather, Marquess of Milford Haven (left), sister Louise (front), mother Clare (centre), the Marquess’ brother Lord Ivar Mouthbatten, his children Ella and Alix and then wife Penny (right) at Cowdray Park in 2001
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