Grandad does not want to spend time with me after he found out I am gay

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE always been really close to my grandad – until he found out I’m gay.

I’m his only grandson and he used to spend a lot of time with me.


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We’d go for walks together and I loved our regular fishing trips on Sunday afternoons.

I’m 15 and he’s 75. I recently came out as gay. Mum and dad were brilliant about it, as were my close circle of friends.

But when I told my grandad, I got a nasty surprise.

He won’t accept I’m gay and says if I’m going to talk nonsense he wants nothing to do with me.

He has blocked my number and won’t even answer my dad’s calls. I’m so upset.

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DEIDRE SAYS: It is a sad fact that not everyone is accepting of others – and older generations sometimes find it hard to get past outdated, intolerant attitudes to gay relationships.

I hope when your grandad has had time to process this news, he will start to accept you and things can get back to normal between you.

I am attaching my support pack Gay Resources, which has lots of information and organisations where you can make contact with those in the LGBTQ community.

You might also find it helpful to look at the organisation FFLAG (fflag.org.uk), which supports families of the LGBTQ community.

Perhaps you could ask your dad to direct your grandad to its website.

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